Being a blessed person in my opinion is definently a gift, and a curse. I say this because I have so much experience with it. Having a good heart makes you so vulnerable to bullshit. It’s like no matter how poorly someone may treat you, how bad they hurt your feelings, how bad they hurt you whether it’s mentally or emotionally, you’ll still feel bad for them.
When me and my ex – boyfriend went our separate ways, no matter how hurt I was, angry I was, mad I was, I still felt genuinely sorry for him.
Out of all the things that he had said to me, did it me period, I had the nerve to feel sorry for him. No matter how much I wanted to hate him, and his family. My good heart just wouldn’t allow it.
Tuhh! The perks of having a good heart. Besides this, a good heart will always lean towards forgiveness. Now that isn’t actually a bad thing. The bible says to forgive but never forget. So why not? I’ve learned that just because you forgive someone does not mean that you are willing to bring that person back into your life.
It took me one year to mentally forgive my ex-boyfriend. I had realized that I wasn’t benefiting from holding the grudge against him or the anger in my body because I had since moved on but the baggage from my past was still lingering on my back, causing mistakes in my current relationship.
So I forgave him and I let it go. Might I say it felt really good. Not only did I become the “Bigger person” but I always learned a lot about myself in the process. I was put on this earth to LOVE. Holding grudges is just allowing someone you dislike to live rent free in your brain. We as people invest too much time and energy into hatred. We constantly give CPR to dead situations. We just have to learn to let go.
There is absolutely no need to continue to hate someone because you may feel that they deserve it, or you get joy out of constantly picking at the situation. Trust me, it hurts them more when you move forward, killing them softly with kindness.
“Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.”