” My standard of perfection often paralyzes me, or makes me terrified, or makes me feel ashamed. Instead, if I can make a space for the idea that the goal is not to be perfect, but the goal is to be me, then I get to revel in the mixed bag of what is it to be a human. Some moments are good, some are bad. We live in a culture where people are constantly telling us how to get what we want, and within that message is, you need to be something other than you are. So my antidote to that has been, what if the goal is not to get what I want, but discover who I am, be who I am, and accept that? Because strangely, that takes courage.
– Tracee Ellis Ross